Do you want to be happier in 2020?
Sounds like a simple enough question, but deep down you might not have an answer. Literally.
Could be you’re not ready to discover good feels yet. Or, you’re scared of being happy and what it’d mean for your life.
Wherever you land on the scale, pretending to be at another point won’t help.
Want to be happier? Great! Want to be miserable cause it’s familiar? Don’t beat yourself up for rolling your eyes at inspirational quotes. Have no clue what happiness even means for you? No worries. This happiness tip works without fail.
So how can we be happier in 2020 and well… whenever?
-> You + Caring Less About Things That Don’t Matter = Happier You <-
Sounds easy enough right? But how do we even know what really matters and what doesn’t?
I had to pick apart my life (still working on it by the way). I didn’t just wake up and could miraculously ignore/put aside unimportant stuff. I had to start somewhere; it’ll be the same for you.
-> The Process <-
Difficulty Level: Challenging AF
- Step 1: Consider what you give your time to right now. I don’t just mean work, school, family, etc. What do you spend emotional and mental energy on?
- Step 2: Ask – 1) Do these things help my progress? 2) Do they contribute to my negative emotions? 3) Do I get pissed off or sad when faced with them? 4) Do they encourage or inspire me in any way?
- Step 3: Think about why the things giving negative vibes have that power. *Dig deep, all the way past the ugliest stuff. We find the truest answers there.*
- Step 4: When you’re faced with these unimportant happiness takers, take a breath. Realise you don’t have to react the way you always do. Understand there’s no need for them to have a hold over you… cause they don’t matter.
There are many things I worry a hell of a lot less about now.
I used to, for example, stress to stomach churns over not being available to everyone at any time.
I started to take my own advice and guess what? No one died and I feel happier helping on my own terms. I didn’t realise how emotionally taxing it was till I stopped.
There are still many things I have to work on daily. Yes, you’ll have to as well. That may sound like bad news but it isn’t. Challenges allow us to grow and build something better.
Psychology Today gives insight on how to see challenges as opportunities.
Even if you’re grudgingly reading this, deciding you don’t care if you’re happy or not in 2020 – try the steps. Nothing to lose but a frown right?
What’s driving you to be happier (or not) this year?
Comment below :).