“ I’ll feel so much better when… *insert an outcome here*”
This is the lie I’ve been telling myself for years!
Saying it out loud feels normal because I genuinely believed, that when this thing I’ve been hoping for came through, then I’d feel the way I told myself I would feel.
So when I pay off this debt, I’ll feel so relieved. When I finally have those amazing pair of leather shoes, I’ll feel even hotter… etc, etc.
And in many instances it was true, I did feel relieved when I had paid off the bills, I did feel stylish with the pair of shoes I was so ecstatic to buy.
The lie wasn’t in the feeling, it was in the timeline.
Yeah read that again.
By believing that I would ‘ feel *insert emotion* when I * insert the action and intended outcome*, what I was actually doing was holding the feeling hostage. I placed conditions on myself and the feeling, which added even more stress and pressure on me to achieve that outcome, breeding fear like vultures to a carcass.
Simply because in my mind, I could not feel happy/relieved/sexy until I had achieved the goal. I had subconsciously placed the outcome before the emotion, which meant I had placed prerequisites and timelines on my own emotions.
Whether you believe in manifesting, Law of Attraction, energy work, etc or not, the truth is that what we focus on, repeat with conviction and feed in our minds consistently is what is growing, taking shape and becoming stronger.
It’s becoming our way of thinking, which means it’s now our way of life.
So with this one sentence said and believed for decades, I started to apply it to every other part of my life , where my emotions were conditional on the result I was going for and it meant that I could not experience those emotions, until I had succeeded in the result, which sadly was not always possible.
The reason this concept grew into all areas of my life was a direct result of me reinforcing it in by head by consistent repetition, covered in strong belief ,thereby giving my mind a new operating system to boot from.
Today, I am training myself to live under an entirely new mantra, where my emotions are present, worthy of being acknowledge and are free to roam like the wild animals of Africa.
Today I’ve given my operating system new code, and from there it restarts in love. It has replaced fear with love, worry with conviction and conditions with free will.
We should not hold ourselves hostage to things that are out of our control, that is what causes us to stress, to fixate on one problem, forgetting there are so many ways to still reach our goal(s), to forget that our health and our happiness are significant and important things for us to actually function.
So today I use a new affirmation: I choose how I feel and I feel amazing and free and loved.
Repeat it with me.